Today's reading from Words of the Ancient Wise was:
"HOW do we act in a voyage? What is in my
power? To choose the pilot, the sailors, the day, the time of day.
Afterwards comes a storm. What have I to care for? My part is performed.
The subject belongs to another, to the pilot. But the ship is sinking:
what then have I to do? That which alone I can do; I am drowned, without
fear, without clamour, or accusing God; but as one who knows that what
is born must likewise die. For I am not eternity, but a man; a part of
the whole, as an hour is of the day. I must come like an hour, and like
an hour must pass away. What signifies it whether by drowning or by a
fever? For, in some way or other, pass I must. -
EPICTETUS. DISCOURSES. Book ii. §5. ¶2."
My response to this was "Have
courage to face the inevitable with reason and peace. Do what you can
to influence or change your circumstances, but when you have done all
that you can, act with dignity."
As I mentioned in yesterday's blog, I have recently experienced a momentous loss in my own personal life. My mother passed away from a terminal form of cancer within four months of diagnosis. The example that mother gave me of "grace under extreme adversity", "peace when the storm of life is raging", will stay with me for the rest of my life and with anyone who witnessed her incredible dignity and fortitude. Upon her initial diagnosis she spoke with her doctors and specialists discovered that there was little medical intervention that would prolong her life considerably and made the choice to accept the inevitable and to spend what little time she had left with family and friends around her. She chose not to rail at the circumstances or to fight the inevitability of death, but to accept things with serenity. Her moments, although tinged with regret that she would not experience the future with those that she loved, were filled with important words, love and friendship.
I am blessed to have been part of her final days, blessed to have had such a mother. I am blessed to have known such a woman; an example of dignity and virtue in the face of insurmountable and unbeatable adversity.
When we are given a circumstance or challenge in life; first we must virtuously examine our actions moving forward, secondly we must act as we have determined virtue would demand, and then we must accept the outcome understanding that we have done all that we could. We can then let go and move forward into the sea of life, able to release the outcome and enjoy the journey that is left to us.